Why Casual Is Too Casual

Because I have no desire to ever be treated casually outside of role playing.

Because I refuse to have sex with someone I can’t consider a friend. And not just a temporary friend, but someone I can actually say “hi” to years down the road without cringing.

Because my body and other people’s bodies are temples and should be worshipped accordingly and not as cum rags.

Because sex is like alcohol and my father always said you drink to feel even better, not to feel better.

Because sex is something to be enjoyed with someone, not at someone.

Because I am not a sex toy to be used without mindful care.

Because my body comes with a mental state, an emotional state, as well as a physical state. And having someone ignore those other important parts of me is not someone safe to play with.

Because knowing that my play partner cares about my mental, emotional, as well as physical state makes the sex better.

Because my self esteem does not allow me to put myself in unsafe situations and unsafe people.

Because I don’t want to fuck bad human beings. Therefore research. Therefore spending time vertically with them before going horizontal.